How do you know when you've found the right guy?

January 16, 2020

Dating nowadays isn't easy. I know this as I've been there. However, when it comes to finding 'Mr Right' we often get fixated to finding our perfect match. We look for a man who is career-driven, ambitious and is looking to be in a relationship. But the truth is most people using dating apps aren't entirely sure what they want, and you shouldn't be rushing to find that person if you're not aware of your standard.

If you're dating someone right now or you feel a sense of connection with someone you know there are a few things that you need to be aware of before jumping into conclusions and thinking this person is ready to be committed relationship.

Firstly, you need to make sure if your values are respected and if this person invests the time to get to know you. The reason why I say this is that I've been in traps before believing that a guy was interested when deep down they wanted something casual. These red flags came out as I noticed that they never acknowledge my interests or understood that I wasn't here to play games. They wanted things on their terms, and that's not how a partnership works.

You need to remember your self-worth and if the person you are dating acknowledges everything you do and wants to invest more time to get the real you then I would say yes he's a good'un. Along with that, people nowadays want to take their time to get to know someone before rushing into a relationship so I wouldn't fixate on the future and I would focus on the present. Spending time together and getting to know one another as you want to make sure that this is someone worth dating.

I've learnt so much from my dating experiences that I know that the right person will come to your life when you least expect it. If you look after yourself and soak up that positive energy, you'll attract the right person.
I met my boyfriend in a moment when I had overcome my anxiety about my skin and grew the confidence to go bare-faced. For the first time in a long time, I didn't feel the pressure to look 'perfect'. I turned up on my date wearing no makeup, and I felt like I could be myself! Now, I have a connection with someone I've never had before as he is like my best friend. He recognises my hard work, he motivates me to accomplish my goals, and he loves me even when I'm grumpy in the morning.

For a relationship to work there needs to be some ground rules and understanding between both people so if you're unsure where you remember that communication is vital!

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